I cannot empty myself of myself by self-denial without the fullness of Christ.  With the fullness of Christ, my self comes to its proper place.  He teaches me how to lose my self and find it in Him.  We must learn that self-hatred is not the path forward.  The goal is not the annihilation of the self into nirvana. The fullness of Christ can expel from us the parts of self that need to die and revive the essence of the true self to live like it has never lived.

“For of His fullness we have all received, and grace upon grace.” John 1:16 (NASB)