We cannot escape the trials of life, its pain, unjust treatment, suffering, nor the hard work to deal with these things and become what we are meant to be.  Life can be overwhelming; some try to escape, to deaden the pain.  They run to alcohol, drugs, compulsive eating, gambling, workaholic, electronic devices, etc.  We discover that there is no way around but only through; we either go through or waste our lives trying to drown, deny, avoid, escape, that which we must face.  But there is no escape!  Don’t try to escape; go though what you have to go through.  Face reality.  Let God do what it is that God needs to do in your life. Work through these things; let the Spirit do a deep restoring work within you.  Confess.  Repent.  Apologize.  Surrender.  Let denial give way to reality.  Let avoidance give way to responsibility.  Die to the false self created by your false reality so that the real self, that one meant to be like Jesus, can emerge. 

“Listen carefully: Unless a grain of wheat is buried in the ground, dead to the world, it is never any more than a grain of wheat. But if it is buried, it sprouts and reproduces itself many times over.  In the same way, anyone who holds on to life just as it is destroys that life. But if you let it go, reckless in your love, you’ll have it forever, real and eternal.” John 12:24-25 (Message)