Some of the things we have gone through were so confusing.  They may have brought us to the brink of despondency.  We dealt with unplanned events, disappointments and heartaches.  The decisions that others made crashed in on us.  Yet, in all of these things, we found that God was doing a refining work in us.  We have the overwhelming sense that Someone was at work in our pain.  A great mystery: The God who does not cause all things works in all things to make the broken ones whole.

“Bless our God, O peoples, And sound His praise abroad, Who keeps us in life And does not allow our feet to slip.  For You have tried us, O God; You have refined us as silver is refined.”  Psalm 66:8-10 (NASB)