I wish I had listened more.  I was just trying to make my point and was not open to hearing a counterpoint.  I was just trying to get my words injected into the conversation and never heard what the other person was trying to say.  I spoke from my cultural understanding, the ones that made me feel very comfortable, but I never saw that the things about my culture that brought me comfort was causing someone else pain.  When I was trying to win the debate, when I was trying to control the conversation I was hindering my own education and in some cases my own spiritual maturity.  

Lord Jesus, you came into the world as the Word in flesh.  I still have not let the reality of that grip me as it should and as it must.  Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me.  May I hear what the Spirit through the Incarnate Word is saying.  May I have the discipline to listen.  Amen!