Christ does not meander aimlessly.  He knows your destination.  He is leading you to better places and higher vantage points.  He will show you how to get through all the events of your life. You will be impacted by the choices of others sometimes in devastating ways.  You may feel it has ruined you and you will never be whole again.  But just keep following your Leader.  You will find out that the things meant to break you, He will use to make you.

“We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not despairing; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed (II Cor 4:8-9).