Relationships can bring great joy and great sorrow.  Words, decisions and deeds of another can negatively affect all persons connected to them.  To be affected by this means more than picking up the pieces and moving on.  It means bringing your situation to the foot of the cross and to your Lord.  Take a long look at the cross.  There the Father sanctified the tragic and redeemed the world.  The Father who did that for the Son can sanctify the tragedies of your life and bring redeeming things from it for your good and His glory.

“For he has graciously granted you the privilege not only of believing in Christ, but of suffering for him as well—since you are having the same struggle that you saw I had and now hear that I still have.” Philippians 1:29-30 (NRSV)