Look into your heart.  Look at its tablet and see what is written there.  Is it what you have been conditioned to do by your DNA, family patterns or the surrounding culture?  Do you see in your heart the things the Holy Spirit has written?  Which are you living by?  Let your heart be one on which He can easily write (Jer 21:33).  When you see what He has written, and it contradicts what you have written, mark through yours and live by His.

 “Do not let kindness and truth leave you; Bind them around your neck, Write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good repute In the sight of God and man.” Proverbs 3:3-4 (NASB)