We would like to be with Jesus on the Sea of Galilee, but we do not like to be with Him at Calvary.  We like loaves and fish but not crosses.   We look at Him on the cross wanting to take His pain away.  We cannot.  Our only option is to join Him on it as His co-crucified ones.  To embrace our cross is to identify with Him and His pain.  To embrace death on our cross is to embrace His resurrection in its fullness.  There is true living after the dying.  

“For if we have become united with Him in the likeness of His death, certainly we shall also be in the likeness of His resurrection.” Romans 6:5 (NASB)